tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post709785185821042072..comments2024-02-28T21:46:42.446-08:00Comments on This-N-That From Lori: A Different Kind of HostageLori Gunnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-52619565249127232472016-02-25T23:26:35.941-08:002016-02-25T23:26:35.941-08:00I think you need to learn the power of saying no i...I think you need to learn the power of saying no instead of running away from it. I know you think it would be easier to just avoid it, but why telling him the reason of your strong NO and maybe he will learn his lesson to stop asking you and other people to support his nasty habit. I get it just avoid it, but why do extra stuff just because someone is being obnoxious about his nasty habit?Kiwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18183628538213526823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-42214256874083966552016-02-20T16:57:21.800-08:002016-02-20T16:57:21.800-08:00Yeah, I know that feeling - it's so awkward. ...Yeah, I know that feeling - it's so awkward. I say no and explain that I'm just getting by too, but it makes you feel bad. It does sound like he has some mental disorder, but with the services being cut back and back there is little help for even those with major disorders. I think you are doing the best you can. It's terrible to feel like a hostage in your own town. Hang in there, Lori.Salley J Robinshttps://plus.google.com/u/0/+SalleyJRobinsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-45862532932446864412016-02-20T12:28:34.549-08:002016-02-20T12:28:34.549-08:00I am not sure what I would do but I know I would f...I am not sure what I would do but I know I would feel really bad saying no though. Melindahttp://www.lookwhatmomfound.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-41905892251738598302016-02-19T19:02:57.162-08:002016-02-19T19:02:57.162-08:00What a tough situation to be in. I'm not sure ...What a tough situation to be in. I'm not sure how I would react either, so hard when there's a mental illness involvedChristie @ Raising Whasianshttp://raisingwhasians.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-41878233600149242222016-02-19T17:41:23.423-08:002016-02-19T17:41:23.423-08:00I feel worse when it's a family and they need ...I feel worse when it's a family and they need the money for something they really need. Cigarettes in that situation... I wouldn't feel bad saying no. Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-75069136211544726232016-02-19T16:25:21.750-08:002016-02-19T16:25:21.750-08:00It's a hard situation. $850 a month probably d...It's a hard situation. $850 a month probably doesn't cover all of his needs, but it doesn't sound like asking patrons of the shopping center is filling in the excess. But you shouldn't feel like a hostage when you are not able to help.Crystalhttp://simplybeingmommy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-23893204120806115242016-02-18T18:52:33.636-08:002016-02-18T18:52:33.636-08:00The Nicorette is a good suggestion. Thanks for the...The Nicorette is a good suggestion. Thanks for the idea. I'm not sure he realizes people would offer him some work around the house or yard if he wasn't such an avid smoker.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-3840516981780814312016-02-18T18:50:55.147-08:002016-02-18T18:50:55.147-08:00I agree. It's good there's never any anger...I agree. It's good there's never any anger or aggression, which seems to be the norm in cities. I guess there's an advantage to living in the boondocks. Thanks for visiting my blog.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-64976994292844071272016-02-18T18:49:41.094-08:002016-02-18T18:49:41.094-08:00He's very upfront, when questioned,that it wil...He's very upfront, when questioned,that it will go to cigarettes or slot machines. Thank you for the response.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-45586153244637149322016-02-18T18:48:10.088-08:002016-02-18T18:48:10.088-08:00Thanks, Cat!Thanks, Cat!Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-35693415817976757012016-02-18T18:47:44.903-08:002016-02-18T18:47:44.903-08:00That might work. Thanks for the suggestion.That might work. Thanks for the suggestion.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-37420325136693265952016-02-18T18:47:12.265-08:002016-02-18T18:47:12.265-08:00That is a good question. He lives with family, and...That is a good question. He lives with family, and perhaps they're the ones urging him to get lost for hours on end. I wouldn't want to be responsible for having someone stuck into confinement unless it was someone bad.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-47110093418112030362016-02-18T18:45:19.864-08:002016-02-18T18:45:19.864-08:00You make me feel better. It seems odd to have to a...You make me feel better. It seems odd to have to avoid someone that's basically nice, but a pest.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-87456908077093609442016-02-18T18:43:26.567-08:002016-02-18T18:43:26.567-08:00Thanks for the response. I'm feel so bad, but ...Thanks for the response. I'm feel so bad, but am not always able to help.Lori Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00922157721748233447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-72420094315148811512016-02-18T17:25:25.791-08:002016-02-18T17:25:25.791-08:00Especially since they already told you the money w...Especially since they already told you the money was going to buy cigarettes, I don't think you should have to feel bad saying no and continuing on your way. If you do feel like doing something, maybe buy them a box of Nicorette. It seems like kicking smoking would play a big part in improving their budget.Jinxy and Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11745165640293739492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-84560913821574115652016-02-18T17:23:16.931-08:002016-02-18T17:23:16.931-08:00I feel guilty too. It seems that the person is suf...I feel guilty too. It seems that the person is suffering from mental disorder.Nicole escatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-75306343693022897232016-02-18T17:12:38.838-08:002016-02-18T17:12:38.838-08:00I feel guilty always too, but you never know if th...I feel guilty always too, but you never know if the money is going to really go for food or to support a habit. MJ.Lhttp://www.mommyhastowork.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-55095640589740817262016-02-18T16:53:20.364-08:002016-02-18T16:53:20.364-08:00It stinks that you are put in this position. I wou...It stinks that you are put in this position. I would just tell them no and keep walking to my car. Catherine SCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11959028816891508384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-38138992854649949362016-02-18T16:52:51.508-08:002016-02-18T16:52:51.508-08:00It stinks that you are put in this position. I wou...It stinks that you are put in this position. I would just tell them no and keep walking to my car. Catherine SCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11959028816891508384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-11798210901358140212016-02-18T16:44:20.400-08:002016-02-18T16:44:20.400-08:00Perhaps they are having some sort of problem, memo...Perhaps they are having some sort of problem, memory, sickness, dementia, something. Rather than hiding has anyone ever thought to try and call someone to get the man help?valmg @ Mom Knows It Allhttp://valmg.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-77344733803425156592016-02-18T15:20:55.762-08:002016-02-18T15:20:55.762-08:00It sounds like this person probably has a mental d...It sounds like this person probably has a mental disorder. I would help sometimes, because this person probably DOES need it, but I would definitely be in duck and cover mode for a lot of sightings. Stacie @ Divine Lifestylehttp://divinelifestyle.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2951315939666186847.post-86738951130358689692016-02-18T15:00:18.564-08:002016-02-18T15:00:18.564-08:00That's crappy that the person puts so many peo...That's crappy that the person puts so many people into that awkward position. I would feel bad saying no, too.Masshole Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04336689382200054448noreply@blogger.com